Author Archives: Silver
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I pulled a book off my shelf this week that was gathering dust. It should not have been; it is a very worthwhile read. In 1989 Stuart Wilde wrote The Trick to Money is Having Some! and it’s still relevant to today’s world.
I opened up its pages with hope in my heart and excitement in my belly. You see, I have used the Law of Attraction to heal many important areas of my life: my relationships, my physical and mental health, and my spiritual connection. There is one area I continue to struggle with—money. According to Wilde that struggle is a root cause:
“Effort is a natural part of our physical state, but struggle is effort laced with emotion, and that is unnatural and unholy. Inside the energy of abundance, there is no struggle, only flow.”
As I made my way through this wonderful book, the theme that stood out is that money is simply a form of energy. So I asked myself, “What kind of energy am I putting out around the topic of money?”
Clues abound when I look at what I attract. First, I have a belief that everything always works out. Not bad, right? It’s certainly better than, “Yikes! I am REALLY in trouble!” Unfortunately, although things do work out, it’s usually by the skin of my teeth. A more satisfying belief would be that I always have more money than I need in any given moment.
Secondly, I have a core belief that you have to labor really hard to make a lot of money. Over the years, I have worked on softening that belief but it is still there. This is also unfortunate because, to tell you the truth, I have little interest in working really hard. I don’t think anyone wants to do that, even if they are. Most people I know who work really hard believe that someday they won’t have to. That “someday” doesn’t ever seem to arrive.
Finally (and this is the ironic part), I have trouble focusing when it comes to attracting money; it has never motivated me. I am motivated by learning cool things. I generally have several projects going at once, none of them getting the focused attention that would manifest the desired results. Because my energy is scattered, so are my results. But here’s what I suddenly understood as I was writing this column: if I make “creating abundance” a learning project, it will definitely capture my interest. How cool is that?
The solution to any area in your life where you’re not getting what you want always lies with The Law of Attraction which dictates that you get more of what you focus on.
The more we focus on lack, the more of it we attract. We need instead to nurture an abundant consciousness.
More than anything, it’s important to work on increasing our positive energy. Wilde wrote, “In a world where everything is ordinary and dull…if you invest energy in things, people respond.” There are millions of people for whom price is irrelevant. What they want is energy. If they can get it from hanging around you, they will reward you with abundance.
I know this to be true because, in my research I’ve discovered that people who get promoted up the ranks are usually the ones who have the kind of energy the organization wants. Of course, those of us who are not in the habit of abundant thinking make up stories like, “She got that job because she’s a brown nose,” or, “He has political connections or he wouldn’t be here.” That kind of thinking only keeps us stuck in our world of lack.
So if you’re going to invest your time and money in something that will pay the greatest dividends, it would be wise to do whatever you can to increase your positive energy. That’s the trick—to money and to anything worth having!
How you approach your work is a direct reflection of how you show up for life.
I know a woman who is a junior high school teacher. I’ve never seen anyone work harder. She spends nearly half her summer vacation preparing for the next school year and during each semester, she works weekends to keep up. She does it for the children and they don’t seem to appreciate it.
She does the same thing at home, spending countless hours cleaning, preparing meals, and running errands. She does it for her family and they don’t seem to appreciate it.
I know a man who is a very successful insurance salesman. He spends a lot of time with his customers finding out about their lives—asking questions about their work, their families and their hobbies. He also finds out about their insurance needs but not before he gets to know them. He enjoys learning about people.
He is the same way with family and friends—always interested in what they’re doing, where they’ve been and how their lives are going.
The difference between these two people can be found in the “why” of what they do. The teacher doesn’t work hard because she enjoys it. She is self-sacrificing, a bit of a martyr. The salesman, on the other hand, truly enjoys his interaction with people, both at work and in his personal life.
Since the Law of Attraction dictates that you get more of what you focus on, you can guess that the teacher gets less and less appreciation each year while the salesman is surrounded by more and more interesting people (who often turn into customers.)
How does your approach to work reflect your approach to life?
Do you only take what someone gives you, never asking for what you want or need?
Instead of being proactive, do you sit around waiting for someone to tell you what to do?
Are you always trying to please others rather than making sure that you are taken care of?
As I think about my own approach to work I can see the correlation to my life. I tend to get very excited about ideas and turn them into projects. I do a lot of work on one project, only to get distracted by the next exciting idea. I have many unfinished projects both at work and in my personal life.
What I know, after years of coaching people to leverage their natural gifts, is that it is nearly impossible to turn a weakness into a strength. Simply put, I am unsystematic. I could concentrate my efforts on becoming more systematic but the best I could do after expending a massive amount of energy is to improve a little bit (maybe). And it wouldn’t make me happy because I would be fighting my natural tendencies.
The solution for me has been twofold:
Why is it so important to learn to manage areas of weakness? The Law of Attraction dictates that you get more of what you focus on. A weakness that is causing you problems at work or at home will become a focal point. The more you focus on what’s not working, the more things will go wrong. (When I focused on all my unfinished projects, not only did my productivity slow down, I felt crazed.) When instead you figure out a solution and make that your focus, you easily attract more of what you want.
Change your focus, change your life is not just a clever saying. Applying it can change your life. Instead of taking your weaknesses from work into your personal life, and vice-versa, learn your strengths and focus on utilizing them fully. If you’re not sure what they are, ask your friends. They all know, even if you’re blind to them.
Focus, focus, focus…..
The Law of Attraction dictates that you get more of what you focus on. Simply put, this means that when you focus on:
Stop for a moment and consider: are you having a good day or a bad one? What have you been focused on?
What could you focus on?
Focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t is very simple to say and yet often difficult to do. If you have developed a life-long habit of looking at what’s wrong instead of what’s right it takes a good deal of practice to make looking for the positive your default mode. I’m still working on it 23 years after I first discovered this secret to a good life.
If focusing on the negative accomplishes what you want, I say go for it. But it never does. Notice I didn’t say, “If looking at the negative accomplishes what you want…” I’m not suggesting you never look at problems. It is often necessary to look at the problem in order to figure out what you want. But when we dwell on something, it gets bigger, not smaller. So look at the problem long enough to figure out what you want, then turn your back on it and focus on the solution.
I long for the day when, instead of boring everyone around us by talking about our problems, we share with them our excitement about solutions.
Instead of, “You won’t believe this awful thing that’s happening to me,” we’ll hear, “Wait until I tell you how I can solve this!”
What problems are you currently having? How are you going about solving them? As you discuss it with co-workers and friends, are you talking about the solution or are you only talking about the problem?
What beliefs do you have? Are they serving you well?
I have a belief that I don’t lose things, only misplace them. My belief got tested this week when I could not find my cell phone. When I realized it was missing, I called it a few times. No one answered. Then I called the grocery store where I’d been shopping to find out if they had it. The answer was, “No.” So I called the phone company to turn it off.
The next day a friend suggested I to go to the grocery store to see if anyone had turned it in. On my way there, I said to myself, “Where is your focus? You don’t lose things. It will show up.” I got to the grocery store and sure enough, they had it!
If I had decided it was lost and focused on that, I would not have checked with the grocery store a second time.
When you focus on something being lost, it could be right where you look for it and you cannot see it because your mind believes you when you tell it the item is lost. How many times has someone else found something for you in the very place you’d already looked?
That is a microcosm of how the Law of Attraction works. How can you use this to your advantage?
How about paying more attention to how you feel, and insisting on feeling good? When you feel good, it is your inner guidance system signaling you, “If you stay focused where you’re currently focused, you are really going to like the results.” When you’re negatively focused, you will definitely not like the results.
It truly is as simple as that. All that is required is practice, practice, practice. Insist on feeling good and every time you start to feel otherwise, stop to examine where you are focused. You will find that the simple act of shifting your focus will make all the difference in your day and in your mood.
There’s a reason my motto is, “Change your focus, change your life!”