Choosing and Re-Choosing

Some days are tougher than others. Maybe you’ve been practicing applying the Law of Attraction in your life and other people are not cooperating. You’re doing everything you can to be in a good mood–but those around you seem determined to be negative. It’s hard not to let that get to you.

When this happens, it’s time to check where your focus is. If all around you there seem to be only negative folks, you must be doing something to attract that negativity. It’s uncomfortable to admit–but true.

I had a day like that yesterday. I woke up in a good mood, committed to staying that way. However, one of my co-workers wasn’t cooperating. The more negative he grew, the more tension I felt. I tried not to let it bother me (believe me, I did), but without success. We eventually had harsh words.

Now that I’m apart from it and can analyze what happened, I see that I had been tense the moment I got out of bed, but hadn’t known it. I had been packing the night before for a trip, and I invariably get nervous before traveling. Will I remember everything? Have I done all that needs doing before I leave? No wonder I attracted an external reflection of my own inner tension.

Now that I realize this, I know what steps to take in a similar situation in the future–and will remember them, I hope. Let me share with you some tips for the next time you’re in the company of someone whose mood is driving you slightly mad:

Ø If possible, sit down with the person and brainstorm ways in which both of you can relieve the tension you’re suffering. You might say, “I can tell you’re under some pressure, and I’m feeling tense too. Would you be willing to discuss how we could help put each other in a better mood?”

Ø Distance yourself from the situation, even if only temporarily. I always envision Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, clicking her heels and fervently murmuring, “There’s no place like home. There’s no place like home.” Go for a walk around the block. Take a break. If need be and it’s possible, work somewhere else for a few hours, or for the whole day.

Ø Take a mini-vacation on the spot. Your brain can’t tell the difference between reality and make-believe. Close your eyes. Think of something guaranteed to make you happy. It could be your spouse, your pet, your grandkids or last year’s trip to the Bahamas. When you open your eyes, your tension will have abated and you will stop attracting the negativity of others.

Ø When all else fails, throw a tantrum. Yes, you read that correctly–but be careful not to go off half-cocked. Before you explode, express your intention to use the tantrum to clear the way for a good mood. Set a timer for 10 minutes and let things rip. Yell and scream. Get it all out. If you can’t make noise, sit with pen and paper and write down all the blame and ugliness running through your mind. Get out all you can in 10 minutes and when the timer goes off, tear the paper into tiny pieces and move on.

Choose your mood in the morning, afternoon or evening. If you find yourself off-kilter, choose again.

Whatever is around us, it is there because we are drawing it to us. That’s the Law of Attraction at work. Our surroundings are an external mirror of our internal focus. So, if you want to change your life, change your focus!

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