Messages We Ignore

I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night with pain from my sciatic nerve. There are physical stretches I can do that help prevent this. I have not been doing them (although I did some before I sat down to write this and I put up sticky notes to remind me to do more).

It’s caused me to ponder how my neglect impacts what I am attracting. Remember, the Law of Attraction says you get more of what you focus on. When I allow things like business and the needs of others to take priority over my own health, I am sending a clear message out into the universe, “Those other things are much more important than my well-being.” So, of course, I attract circumstances that are a match to that message. I am getting more of what I’m focused on (business is good, I’m fulfilling my obligations to others) and my body hurts; it is trying to tell me it needs attention, too.

When you disconnect from your own well-being, your body will send you a signal. It’s usually a small one—maybe a twinge or a faint ache. If you ignore it (which I have been doing), you needn’t worry that you’ll forget about it because IT WILL GET BIGGER. The discomfort will grow until you pay attention.

The pain isn’t some sort of punishment. Rather, it’s an indication of how far afield you are. The more you get used to feeling good, the worse it feels when you don’t and the more intensely you notice it. If you are experiencing any kind of strong physical pain (headache, muscle aches, sciatic flare-up), it is your body screaming at you to start focusing on what it needs. It has to scream because the whispers didn’t work.
The same is true of emotional pain—grief, anger, and intense frustration are all signs that we are not paying attention to some need of ours.

During some of my programs, I have the audience get in touch with their “inner martyr.” It always gets a big laugh because we all have one. It’s that part of us that is self-sacrificing to the detriment of our own needs. If helping others first brings you joy, there is nothing wrong with this behavior. Usually, however, we just feel put upon which is ironic because we are always the ones who say yes to the requests that we wish we had the nerve to say no to.

What are you attracting that you wish you had less of? And what is not happening that you wish was?

“Change your focus, change your life” is not simply a clever motto. It is a formula for achieving what you want. You always get more of what you focus on. I’ve made it my life’s mission to teach this both to others and especially to myself. It takes time to learn and, because we are human beings, we need to learn it over and over again.

Today, choose something you want to change. For me, it’s the pain in my hip. Start focusing on what life would be like if that area improved. Ask the Universe to reveal to you what to do about it and then trust that the answers will come. While you’re waiting, do what you already know to do because that may be the perfect solution. The stretches I did before writing this column have already helped (yay!)

The Bible says, “Ask and ye shall receive.” It also tells the story of Moses who went up to the mountain and received a tablet from God with the Ten Commandments on it. Unfortunately, answers are rarely given with such dramatic flair. It’s usually a thought that pops into your head. For example, the word “Jacuzzi” just popped into mine so that’s my next action step.

Ask for what you want and listen—whether it’s to your body, your emotions or your mind. The answers are already there. You’re the one who has to take the action—do so with joy and watch what happens!

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