Creeping Tolerations

By Silver Rose

Creeping Tolerations

I was pretty sick last week, for the second time in three months. Clearly, it was time to figure out what the heck is going on.

You see, I believe our physical well-being is a direct reflection of emotional well-being. When my body had a break-down last week, I knew I must have received numerous warning signals in the form of emotional messengers. I had simply ignored them. When you ignore emotional messengers telling you that “all is not well,” they just intensify. What starts out as a mild annoyance can turn into the flu if you don’t pay attention at the beginning.

Emotional Messengers fall into two categories: negative and positive. If you think about it, those are the only two emotions we have. We have a variety of labels for the subtle nuances – sad, angry, blue, annoyed, self-justified – in the end, those are all negative emotions.

When I was sick in bed, I began to examine my life and to gain some insight into when and how I allowed the negative emotions to gradually take over until I had to get sick in order for them to gain my attention.

I call the state I was living in, “Creeping Tolerations.”

What are creeping tolerations? They are those little things we let slip, convincing ourselves that we can tolerate them when, in point of fact, they are very slowly, like the drip-drip-drip of water torture, driving us out of our minds!

For me, they were things like:
· Getting caught up on my tax situation
· Closing out 2003 financial records
· An office that was messier than I’m comfortable with
· A car in desperate need of a wash
· A body that needed to be exercised more regularly

There are many more, but you get the picture.

Toleration is not acceptance. If I had accepted what was on my list, there would have been no water torture and no illness. I could have gone about my business, knowing I’d get to them when I could. But I pretended to accept them when, in fact, I was merely tolerating them, a victim, thinking I had no other choice. Have you ever noticed that, during those times of your life when you feel like a victim, you are less healthy, mentally and physically?

In my experience, what we tolerate defines the quality of our lives. Some of us settle for only the best, some of us are content with a middle-ground, and others tolerate less than what we want, thinking it’s all we can have.

When we tolerate less than what we want in any aspect of our lives, we are telling the Universe, “This is what I’m willing to have – nothing more.” And the Universe always gives you what you ask for, not what you need.

So, if you are experiencing any dis-ease, be it of the body, mind or spirit, take stock. What are you tolerating, pretending it’s not bothering you? With what are you putting up? Whatever it is, it’s not worth your life. Your life is made up of seconds. Every second robbed is a piece of life given up. Take yours back. I plan to.

Happy Journey,

Moving Confidently Toward Your Future

By Silver Rose

Moving Confidently Toward Your Future

The single biggest thing that prevents us from harnessing The Law of Attraction to full advantage is self-protective doubt. When what we desire is particularly important to us, we fearfully wonder, “Can this really happen?”

Because we don’t want to experience disappointment, we tell ourselves all the reasons it probably will not come to pass. Then, when it doesn’t, we don’t feel badly because we had already decided it was beyond our reach.

Unfortunately, what has actually happened is that our self-protection has kept from us the very thing we want.

Remember, The Law of Attraction says, ‘You attract more of what you focus on.”
At first, when the desire for something surfaces, we get very excited about what it will be like to have it. We picture how our life will be when it arrives. We imagine sharing it with others. We even make plans for how often and when we will enjoy it.
In our excitement, we are attracting it to us, and rapidly, because our full focus is on having it. The most powerful emotional state for attracting what you want is that of passion. Passion comes from strongly wanting something and just as strongly knowing it will be yours.

It is easy to be passionate, for example, about a vacation we’ve planned and have already paid for. The reason it’s so easy is because we know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that it’s going to happen. Something we want very much will soon happen, and we are excited.

However, suppose there is something you strongly crave, and there is no evidence that you will get it. Perhaps you want a promotion at work and you don’t even know if one is available. What most of us do under those circumstances is “face reality,” which means we don’t allow ourselves to want it too much in case it doesn’t happen.

The most satisfying use of The Law of Attraction is to clearly identify what you want and then move confidently toward your future, knowing that it is there, waiting for you.

What are some of the goals you have that you can decide, right now, are GOING to happen (not “might” or “could” but going to)?
· The successful completion of an important project
· That promotion you want
· A new skill you want to acquire
· A college degree
· A good performance review and subsequent raise
· The necessary revenue coming into your organization

Just as we have confidence that every romance novel and Disney children’s movie has a happy ending, have the same confidence as you move toward the fruition of your goals. SEE them in your mind’s eye, KNOW that they are going to happen, and relax.

They will come to you, more easily than you ever dreamed possible.

You cannot struggle your way to a happy ending (despite what those romance novels and Disney movies portray). The way to attract your own happy ending is by setting your sights for what you want and then moving confidently toward your future.

Happy Journey,

20 20 Hindsight

By Silver Rose

20/20 Hindsight

We hear the stories every day. Some are people we know and cherish; others are strangers on the 6:00 news. They are ill, often struggling with life and death issues.

It happened to me yesterday. A friend told me of his struggle with MS. Suddenly all my “problems” disappeared from consciousness.

Erma Bombeck gave the gift of laughter to the world. Here is what she had to say:
by Erma Bombeck
(written after she found out she was dying from cancer).

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute…look at it and really see it . live it and never give it back. Stop sweating the small stuff.

Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what. Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

In other words, Erma would have focused on the good, downplaying the bad.

The Law of Attraction says, “You attract that which is a match to how you are feeling.”

Don’t wait for 20/20 hindsight. What will you start doing differently – TODAY?

Start living your life with the joy of a small child.

If you have your health, enjoy every bit of it. If you are ailing in some way, enjoy what you can – the sun on your face, the sound of laughter, the music of nature. Joy is why we are here and it is all around us. Grab some. It’s free.

Less is More in 2004

By Silver Rose

Less is More in 2004

Yesterday, while talking to a friend, I caught myself delivering a veritable laundry list of all the wonderful and ambitious plans I have for 2004. As I listed the projects, I found myself wanting to add to them, to make it all sound somehow more impressive. I felt myself a bit embarrassed about not having done more in 2003 and wanting him to know that I was determined to be a superstar in 2004. Be all you can be!

Since that call, I’ve been pondering the following:

It’s the New Year. People all over the planet are making resolutions to do more this year. I say, “Let’s do less.”

The Law of Attraction says, “You attract more of what you focus on.” Since most of us are regularly and systematically focused on a vast cornucopia, we end up attracting a wide variety of things, very few of them what we really want.

In a society of instant gratification, we want what we want RIGHT NOW –all of it. Because our focus and energies are so scattered, we end up attracting small pieces of what we want – just enough to keep us frustrated instead of satisfied.

Here’s an idea for 2004. Take a piece of paper (or do it on your computer – it’s easier to sort). Your page should look like this:

Personal Business
1. 1.
2. 2.
On through…… …
11. 11.

In other words, list numbers 1-11 on each side. At first, randomly list up to eleven deliverables for 2004. I say “up to” because you may have four very large deliverables that require greater focus. Eleven is the MOST you want to have. I prefer the word “deliverables” to “goals.” “Deliverable” implies that you will actually do it. “Goal” gives you some wiggle room.

Now, here is how to harness The Law of Attraction in 2004 for BIG results. The numbers 1-11 represent the months of this year. (I always eliminate December since it seems a lost month for accomplishing much – plus it provides a cushion to catch up, if need be). For January, decide which deliverable you will focus on and move it to the top of your list. Then decide on during February, etc. etc. (By the way, you may have one deliverable listed in several months if it’s a big one.)

Each month, as you work with this, you will discover that, by focusing your attention and energy on one deliverable, instead of spreading it all over, you will be successful much more quickly. It doesn’t mean you’ll complete each deliverable in its given month. That may not be possible. But during its designated month, you will do everything in your power to move it forward. It’s your priority.

This also doesn’t mean you won’t work on other things, some of which are on your “deliverables” list. What it does mean is that your primary focus will be on that month’s deliverable. When you plan your work day, you will plan around your work deliverable for that month. After hours, you will focus on your personal deliverable.

Doing this will guarantee that, in 2004 you will attract more of what’s important to you instead of lots of little things that are nice but aren’t really all that critical. When you can focus on what’s truly important, all the little things will take care of themselves.

So, let’s do less in 2004 in order to attract more of what we truly want – that which makes life meaningful and rich. Then, when 2005 rolls around, you’ll look back with satisfaction rather than regret.


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