The Answer is Always "Yes!"

The Law of Attraction is not a new concept. It has been embraced by some of the world’s greatest thinkers for centuries. In the Bible, for example, it says: “Ask and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find”.

Why then is it that we don’t receive some of the very things we most passionately desire? If the Law of Attraction is always at play (and it is), how can this be?

It’s because of the confusion about how to ask. We think we ask through our words when in fact, we ask through our attention. The more attention we pay to something, the more of that we get.

That’s why affirmations so often don’t work. When, for example, you passionately affirm, “I am highly appreciated at work,” within the context of “My boss is out to get me,” then your attention is not on being appreciated (no matter how passionate your voice is) it’s on your fear of the boss’ opinion. Hence, your relationship with your boss continues as it has always been.

What are you paying attention to? For the most part, are you focused on what you want more of or do you focus on things you wish would go away, never to darken your door again?

When you say, “I want to lose 15 pounds, where is the attention?” On the extra pounds.

When you say, “My co-worker is such a jerk!” what does your attention signal you want more of? Obnoxious co-workers.

When you pray, “Please remove this pain from my body,” your attention is on the pain.

I can already hear the outrage, “Here we go! Blaming the victim again!”

That’s not it at all. When faced with life’s difficulties, (and there will always be challenges), we have two choices: (1) focus on the problem and declare war on it hoping it will disappear; or (2) focus on the solution.

Both strategies inspire action and both will attract more of what you’re focused on: the first keeps you angry and victimized. The second is empowering. It’s up to you to choose which one you prefer. There is such a thing as free will, after all!

Focusing on solutions can be difficult to integrate into your life because we have been taught that the way to remove obstacles in our path is by pushing them away. So what can you do?

When you say, “I’d like a promotion,” it is imperative to take the action of imagining the happiness you will feel when you hear the good news. Envision what you will do with the extra money. Act as if it is a done deal and you are merely moving through time toward it. When you “act as if,” you are bringing it to bear.

When you pray, “Please restore me to full health,” it will work more quickly if you take the action of focusing on robust health as if it is already here—what are you doing, saying, feeling, and wearing? This is where children have it all over us; they are brilliant at daydreaming their futures.

When you can train your mind to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t, then you will have learned how to make the Law of Attraction work to your advantage.

You ask through your attention and the answer to what you ask for is always, “Yes!”

Simply ask yourself as often as possible, “Do I want more of what I am giving my attention to?”

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