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The Truth as a Springboard

Too often, people mistakenly think I am a proponent for ignoring the negative things in life. I would be, if that were possible. Let’s face it; ignoring some things is like having a pesky monkey in the room and pretending you just don’t see him. Does that mean he isn’t there?

I AM a proponent of focusing on what you want. The good news about negative emotions is they help to clarify what we really want. If you passionately wrote down all the things you do not want in life, the path to what you DO want would be very clear. They would simply be those things that are opposite to what you don’t want.

Trying to put a “positive spin” on something that has you really steamed is like using a wine cork to plug a dam. At first, there will be seepage. Eventually, the pressure will build and violently push the cork out in an explosion of water. You want to cause the explosion so you can direct the impact.

So, rather than try and reason your way out of a situation that truly has you down, I recommend having a “Rant & Rave” session as a way to proactively cause the explosion in a controlled environment.

Here are the ingredients of a successful Rant & Rave:
1. Egg timer
2. Pen & paper OR
3. Tape recorder OR
4. Good friend who listens well

Steps to take:
1. Make the following agreement: “When this Rant & Rave ends, I will be over this and ready for resolution. I will no longer complain about it or even discuss it with anyone, including myself.”
2. Set your timer. Depending on how long this has festered and how important it really is, set your timer for 10-30 minutes. You don’t want this to be like the long version of a sixties song that drags on and on and on (and on). You DO want to have enough time to get it all out; to say it all.
3. Let it rip. What are you sick and tired of about this situation? What REALLY makes you mad about it? What do you wish would happen (thoughts of revenge are acceptable here). Be uncharitable. Be unkind. Be petty. GET IT ALL OUT!
4. When the timer goes off, stop. If you are writing, put the pen down. If you are talking, shut-up (ooh, I’m telling mom!).
5. Do a Rant & Rave dance or something to clearly mark the ending. Whoop & holler. Do the Watusi. Better still, dance like the football players when they get a touchdown. Rip up the paper you wrote on and set it on fire in an ashtray or over your toilet. Put it through the shredder & throw confetti in the air. Celebrate – the evil demon is gone.
6. Re-set the timer for 10 minutes.
7. Answer the following questions: What are at least 3 potential solutions? Of the three, which am I ready to embrace?
8. Visualize your new life. Now that you’ve decided on a solution, take a few minutes to write or talk about what life will be like now that you’ve found a solution to this pressing issue. Spend the next 24 hours basking in this fantasy.
9. Enjoy the unfolding. A solution will happen. The Law of Attraction which states, “You attract what you focus on,” would have it no other way.
10. Celebrate the fact that you’ve become the captain of your own ship.
The truth is a remarkable springboard for what you want. The relief you feel after a Rant & Rave session is the very thing that will propel you into the air and toward that which you really want (which is opposite to that which you were raving about).

Enjoy this and use it often. You will find that a 5 minute Rant & Rave at the onset of a negative feeling will save hours, days (heck, sometimes years!) of agony caused when you ignore the pressure building up.

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The Truth as a Springboard

By Silver Rose

The Truth as a Springboard

Too often, people mistakenly think I am a proponent for ignoring the negative things in life. I would be, if that were possible. Let’s face it; ignoring some things is like having a pesky monkey in the room and pretending you just don’t see him. Does that mean he isn’t there?

I AM a proponent of focusing on what you want. The good news about negative emotions is they help to clarify what we really want. If you passionately wrote down all the things you do not want in life, the path to what you DO want would be very clear. They would simply be those things that are opposite to what you don’t want.

Trying to put a “positive spin” on something that has you really steamed is like using a wine cork to plug a dam. At first, there will be seepage. Eventually, the pressure will build and violently push the cork out in an explosion of water. You want to cause the explosion so you can direct the impact.

So, rather than try and reason your way out of a situation that truly has you down, I recommend having a “Rant & Rave” session as a way to proactively cause the explosion in a controlled environment.

Here are the ingredients of a successful Rant & Rave:
1. Egg timer
2. Pen & paper OR
3. Tape recorder OR
4. Good friend who listens well

Steps to take:
1. Make the following agreement: “When this Rant & Rave ends, I will be over this and ready for resolution. I will no longer complain about it or even discuss it with anyone, including myself.”
2. Set your timer. Depending on how long this has festered and how important it really is, set your timer for 10-30 minutes. You don’t want this to be like the long version of a sixties song that drags on and on and on (and on). You DO want to have enough time to get it all out; to say it all.
3. Let it rip. What are you sick and tired of about this situation? What REALLY makes you mad about it? What do you wish would happen (thoughts of revenge are acceptable here). Be uncharitable. Be unkind. Be petty. GET IT ALL OUT!
4. When the timer goes off, stop. If you are writing, put the pen down. If you are talking, shut-up (ooh, I’m telling mom!).
5. Do a Rant & Rave dance or something to clearly mark the ending. Whoop & holler. Do the Watusi. Better still, dance like the football players when they get a touchdown. Rip up the paper you wrote on and set it on fire in an ashtray or over your toilet. Put it through the shredder & throw confetti in the air. Celebrate – the evil demon is gone.
6. Re-set the timer for 10 minutes.
7. Answer the following questions: What are at least 3 potential solutions? Of the three, which am I ready to embrace?
8. Visualize your new life. Now that you’ve decided on a solution, take a few minutes to write or talk about what life will be like now that you’ve found a solution to this pressing issue. Spend the next 24 hours basking in this fantasy.
9. Enjoy the unfolding. A solution will happen. The Law of Attraction which states, “You attract what you focus on,” would have it no other way.
10. Celebrate the fact that you’ve become the captain of your own ship.

The truth is a remarkable springboard for what you want. The relief you feel after a Rant & Rave session is the very thing that will propel you into the air and toward that which you really want (which is opposite to that which you were raving about).

Enjoy this and use it often. You will find that a 5 minute Rant & Rave at the onset of a negative feeling will save hours, days (heck, sometimes years!) of agony caused when you ignore the pressure building up.

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Reversing your Emotional Vortex

The key to living a life of well-being is the understanding and leveraging of the Law of Attraction which states, “You attract what you focus on.” The simplest way, although not the easiest, is to do everything in your power to stay in a positive mood. When you do, only positive things can come to you.

A vortex is a simple visual that demonstrates just how the Law of Attraction works. Think of a tornado. When your internal energy vortex is made up of positive emotions, then the cavity or vacuum within your center will draw toward it positive circumstances and events because they are a match to what you are focused on.

Conversely, when your energy vortex consists of negative emotions, then the center becomes filled with negative circumstances that match those emotions.

So, when you find yourself in a negative vortex, how do you reverse it? It’s going very fast. It’s gained lots of momentum and lots of junk along the way, and it’s only getting worse by the moment (thanks to the Law of Attraction, darn it!)

In the many years since I was first diagnosed with clinical depression, I have learned how to reverse a negative energy vortex when I get stuck in one. Today, I’m going to share that information with you.

Fortunately my depression is in remission. However, it is always lurking in the background, ready to step in should I leave a wide enough opening in a negative energy vortex.

Does this mean I’m happy all the time? Hardly. What it does mean is that, over the years, I’ve managed to slowly decrease the tolerance I have bfor wallowing in negative emotions for long periods of time.

Initially, I wallowed for years. My doctor told me I’d suffered from clinical depression since the age of four. When you’re a child and there is no one who knows how to help you release the negativity, there’s not much you can do. However, as an adult, I discovered a world of information on how to treat this depression and I’ve been working on it ever since.

Here is what I have learned about how to reverse a negative energy vortex:

Step 1: Notice it. That sounds ridiculous but often we don’t even know we’re feeling negative emotions. If you ignore them or are oblivious for awhile, don’t worry. They’ll get more intense until they are able to get your attention.

Step 2 – Name it. “I’m in a really bad mood. Do I want to stay here? Do I want to go where this is taking me?”

Step 3 – Go for a thought that brings you some relief.. You don’t go from negative to “happy camper” in 3.5 seconds or less. You work on it a little bit at a time. Set a timer for 3 minutes and use self-talk to feel just a little better. You’ll know you’ve been successful when you experience a sense of relief. It’s at that point that the energy vortex has reversed and is now a positive one. Relief is the reverse gear.

Step 4 – Keep feeding the positive vortex. Use self-talk. Use appreciation. Put on music that pleases you. Do whatever you can to continue your upward spiral.

I have been using this process for many years and can report to you that, not only does it work, it is a formula for thriving no matter what level of negativity you are in. When you master the art of reversing negative energy and turning it into an upwardly spiraling positive vortex, you have taken control of your own well-being.

Being negative takes up much, much more time and energy than being positive. Investing the time it takes to find the reverse will pay for itself over and over in many different and wonderful ways. Give yourself this gift next time you suddenly realize you’re grumpy.

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Reversing your Emotional Vortex

By Silver Rose

Reversing your Emotional Vortex

The key to living a life of well-being is the understanding and leveraging of the Law of Attraction which states, “You attract what you focus on.” The simplest way, although not the easiest, is to do everything in your power to stay in a positive mood. When you do, only positive things can come to you.

A vortex is a simple visual that demonstrates just how the Law of Attraction works. Think of a tornado. When your internal energy vortex is made up of positive emotions, then the cavity or vacuum within your center will draw toward it positive circumstances and events because they are a match to what you are focused on.
Conversely, when your energy vortex consists of negative emotions, then the center becomes filled with negative circumstances that match those emotions.

So, when you find yourself in a negative vortex, how do you reverse it? It’s going very fast. It’s gained lots of momentum and lots of junk along the way, and it’s only getting worse by the moment (thanks to the Law of Attraction, darn it!)

In the many years since I was first diagnosed with clinical depression, I have learned how to reverse a negative energy vortex when I get stuck in one. Today, I’m going to share that information with you.

Fortunately my depression is in remission. However, it is always lurking in the background, ready to step in should I leave a wide enough opening in a negative energy vortex.

Does this mean I’m happy all the time? Hardly. What it does mean is that, over the years, I’ve managed to slowly decrease the tolerance I have bfor wallowing in negative emotions for long periods of time.

Initially, I wallowed for years. My doctor told me I’d suffered from clinical depression since the age of four. When you’re a child and there is no one who knows how to help you release the negativity, there’s not much you can do. However, as an adult, I discovered a world of information on how to treat this depression and I’ve been working on it ever since.

Here is what I have learned about how to reverse a negative energy vortex:

Step 1: Notice it. That sounds ridiculous but often we don’t even know we’re feeling negative emotions. If you ignore them or are oblivious for awhile, don’t worry. They’ll get more intense until they are able to get your attention.

Step 2 – Name it. “I’m in a really bad mood. Do I want to stay here? Do I want to go where this is taking me?”

Step 3 – Go for a thought that brings you some relief.. You don’t go from negative to “happy camper” in 3.5 seconds or less. You work on it a little bit at a time. Set a timer for 3 minutes and use self-talk to feel just a little better. You’ll know you’ve been successful when you experience a sense of relief. It’s at that point that the energy vortex has reversed and is now a positive one. Relief is the reverse gear.

Step 4 – Keep feeding the positive vortex. Use self-talk. Use appreciation. Put on music that pleases you. Do whatever you can to continue your upward spiral.
I have been using this process for many years and can report to you that, not only does it work, it is a formula for thriving no matter what level of negativity you are in. When you master the art of reversing negative energy and turning it into an upwardly spiraling positive vortex, you have taken control of your own well-being.
Being negative takes up much, much more time and energy than being positive.

Investing the time it takes to find the reverse will pay for itself over and over in many different and wonderful ways. Give yourself this gift next time you suddenly realize you’re grumpy.

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Waiting for THEM to Change

By Silver Rose

Waiting for THEM to Change

One of the most common questions I get asked in the workshops I deliver is, “How can I enjoy my work when those around me are so negative? They really get to me.”
Of course, no one likes MY responding question, “Are they getting to you or are you allowing them to get to you?”

Most of us had a parent or teacher who said to us (more than once, usually), “If Joey jumped off of a bridge, would YOU jump off, too?” We all understand that it would be nutty to emulate behavior that could end up getting us killed.

Well, I’ve got news for you. Stress DOES kill. So, when you emulate negative behavior of those around you, when you allow them to get to you, you are literally doing what your mother advised you not to do, lo! those many years ago. And it’s seriously detrimental to your health.

They are not “doing it to you.” You are using their behavior as an excuse to shut yourself off from the natural well-being that each and every one of us is entitled to.

If you are waiting for all those around you to behave in a way that will make you happy – GOOD LUCK ! You’ve got a very long wait.

The Law of Attraction says, “You get more of what you focus on.” By focusing on the negative behavior of others, you are attracting more of it to you. That is why there are such popular expressions like, “It went from bad to worse.” Of COURSE it did. By focusing all your attention on “bad,” it can only get “worse.” That is how the Law of
Attraction works!

So how CAN you enjoy your work when you are surrounded by negativity? First, you might want to challenge the idea that you are “surrounded” by negativity. This is rarely true.

I am always suspicious when someone says to me, “I came in perfectly happy, and within 10 minutes I was in a bad mood listening to everyone else gripe!” If you came into work “perfectly happy,” negativity wouldn’t occur around you. It wouldn’t be a match to you.

Usually what happens is that you come in to work mildly grumpy, but willing to be happy if the right circumstances present themselves. Of course, you immediately start to notice that others are grumpy, too (remember how Law of Attraction works). It really ticks you off because (let’s be honest here) what you were HOPING is that your coworkers would be in such a good mood when you came in that you would somehow magically “catch it” and be lifted out of your own mild grumpiness. Instead, they made it WORSE! Those idiots! (A friend of mine used to joke, “I HATE those negative jerks!”)

Not that you need it (but just in case), you have full permission to be happy regardless of how others are feeling. This includes your boss, co-workers, customers,
spouses, children, gas station attendants, and bowling team members.

You have two choices about how to be happy. You can be obviously happy (and let the chips fall where they may) or covertly happy (no one but you needs to know). Either
way, you don’t need THEM to do one darn thing in order for you to be happy. They don’t have to “carry their own load,” or “stop annoying you,” or even “shape up.”

Please hear this – other people’s moods are none of your business. You’ve got a full-time job keeping yourself on an even keel. Here’s an interesting thing, though. The
more you do what you need to stay positive, the more you will attract people around you who are kindred spirits. It’s the darndest thing. It turns out that the Law of Attraction is consistent. You always attract what you focus on!

One of the most difficult challenges in life is allowing yourself to be happy
when those around you are not.